In light of the recent Rihanna/Chris Brown situation, I’ve been marinating a post about domestic violence and abuse, with particular reference to our West Indian society. My attempts at that post ended up being long-winded, rambling and overtly emotional to the point where I’ve just decided to put it on the back-burner for now until I can write something collected and sensible.
However I am going to confess this now. In my last three relationships I was either hit, punched, slapped, verbally abused, and in the case of my ex-husband, head-butted and had a computer thrown at me. I have gone to work with visible bruises, and yes I have lied about running into doors, or accidentally hitting my head on the dashboard, or any of the assorted, cliched excuses well known to abusers and victims.
I have never admitted this to anyone in a position to help.
There are a lot of women like me out there. More than you could imagine.
This morning I came across this post regarding the RiRi/CB situation and some of the words jumped off the screen and yelled “Re-post me!” So here they are:
If a man beats you today, he will almost always do it again. If he treats you like crap before you’re married, he’ll keep doing it after you walk down the (a)isle. If he cheats on you now, he’s probably going to keep doing it. If he isn’t taking care of his kids when he met you, he’s probably not going to take care of yours. Some concepts are pretty simple, but the elixir of love makes us blind, deaf, dumb and crazy. The truth is that most people tell us exactly who they are if we are willing to listen and observe.
So, so true.
Have a good week all. Be good and be safe.